Procrastinating and delaying things that need to be don’t right up until the last minute. Using mindless distraction, such as television and social media.

Being moody and provoking arguments with people, even 'burning your bridges' in some cases.

Constantly being negative and finding it difficult to see the solutions or the positives in a situation.

Difficulty following through with any commitments or promises, always letting others down, and being a 'no show'.

Perfectionism. The time is not right or you can't accept that things can never be good enough.

Chronic worry and over committing yourself and not being able to finish anything because you have too much to do and are exhausted because you are too busy.

Counterproductive behaviours and mindsets. Self medicating with drugs or/and alcohol, overeating, smoking and gambling.

Chronic tardiness, you are always late for meetings, gatherings, or work. You are the friend that is always late.

You have trouble enforcing boundaries. If you are unable to respect your own boundaries, no-one els will either. The power of the little word no is huge.

I Don’t Like People – Many people, especially introverts, tend to focus their decisions on how many people will be around. They tend to make decisions that are not good for them because they are not comfortable being who they are. Turn that thought around to doing events but focusing on how you can give yourself care during anxious moments around people. It’s okay to be who you are.

Judgmental self-talk - Anytime you start a thought with, I am “too” anything you get into trouble. People often worry about things that no one else ever thinks about although sometimes one might worry about things that other people do think about. For example, if you find yourself saying you’re too fat, too dumb, too something -- to accomplish a goal that you have you need to turn that around to setting up real steps that will get you to your goals.

I’ll Do That When I - You’ve probably said it before to yourself. “I’ll do that when I go back to school.” “I’ll do that when I clean the house.” “I’ll do that when I lose weight.” You know the drill. Unless you need to do the thing in the blank, don’t allow that to get in your way. If you do need to do it, just make a step-by-step plan to get it done.

Limiting beliefs - You may have heard your child, or yourself, or someone else state that “I can’t do math.” Or “I can’t cook.” The truth is, no one can do any of that without learning how to do it. No one just pops out of the womb knowing how to cook, write, read, or do math. Anyone can learn whatever they want to learn given the time and effort to do it.

Saying I Should - Have you ever heard that it’s important not to “should” all over everyone? Not only is it a bad idea to create “should” for others it’s a terrible idea to create them for yourself.

In the Past - Dwelling on the past and what someone did to you in the past or what things were like in the past is not going to help you overcome self-sabotage. While it’s okay to use the past as a learning example, it’s not okay to use it as an excuse not to move forward. Remember you are only in charge of yourself.

In the Future - Just like you do not want to focus on the past you also don’t want to be overly focused on later. Today is honestly all you have for sure. Focus on today and tomorrow will take care of itself.

If I Was More Like Them – Never compare yourself to someone else in a negative way. It’s okay to look at what someone has accomplished, learn how to do it too, and follow their footsteps but don’t wish yourself away as only you can be you.

Learn to recognise and identify the behaviours - What commonly shows up in your life before you start to fall. Is it when you start to feel too comfortable with a relationship, or your work? Do you start to pick a fight with a friend or colleague when things have been looking like they are going so well? Or, when your partner says "I love you"? Or, do you find yourself procrastinating where you typically have had it all together? You can work on ways to recognise and plan to avoid this behavior.

It's all about taking small steps - If you start to see that you're felling overwhelmed by projects, your to do list look at how you can break things down into small steps. Have small goals rather than looking at a huge goal that you are wanting to achieve. Break it down into relatively short small goals the as a whole reach your end game. Have short tasks on your to-do list that that you can complete in under one hour.

Re-frame your view of what a failure is - Successful people make failure a part of the big plan. Think of failure as feedback, and don't take it personally. Failures are opportunities, and the result may end up a whole lot more exciting than you originally planned for.

Challenge your perception of what success is -Success may not end up looking like what your original goal was at all. There is no set rule of what success actually looks like. Success to you may look totally different to somebody else, so comparisons don't actually work in our favour.

Work on a positive self-image - Nobody can think positively about you, unless you are thinking positively about yourself. If you have a poor self-image, you can never come across as someone that looks and is successful. You should learn to be kinder to yourself - think of how you would behave towards a friend. Would you treat a friend the way you are treating yourself? When you talk to yourself, talk to yourself as a friend, and counsel yourself as you would your friend. The truth is we are hardest on ourselves than we are on anybody else.